This was a great affirmation for me when I was going through my breakup. We got to the point where we kept triggering each other and it became toxic. I felt like a raw nerve, and acted like one, when, just days after my mastectomy, I was told to move out. My friends told me to take deep breaths and not to let him get to me, to let him be the one who acts out. It worked when I focused on it, and I came out feeling taller when I didn't succumb to reacting. I watched him as if I was watching a scene, and I was the observer. I honed in on my breathing and an exit strategy - no one is saying to stick around when you aren't being treated right!!